Katherine Mansfield – Chronology

1884 Harold Beauchamp marries Annie Burnell Dyer in Wellington New Zealand. The household includes her sisters (Belle and Kitty) and mother Margaret Mansfield Dyer.
1885 Vera Beauchamp born
1887 Charlotte (Chaddie) Beauchamp born
1888 Oct 14th Katherine Mansfield Beauchamp born at 11 Tinakori Rd., Wellington NZ
1889 Aug 6th John Middleton Murry born in London.
1890 Gwen Beauchamp born but dies three months later.
1892 Jeanne Beauchamp born.
1893 Beauchamps move to Chesney Wold, Karori. (The setting for At the Bay)
1894 Leslie Heron Beauchamp (Chummie) born.
1898 Harold Beauchamp made a Director of the Bank of NZ. Move to 75 Tinakori Rd. Holiday house at 3 Main Rd., Day’s Bay.
1898/1899 KM at Wellington Girls High School. Writes ‘Enna Blake’ for the school magazine..
1900/01 Beginning of Katherine’s relationship with the Trowell family. Cello lessons. In love with Arnold Trowell, twin brother of Garnet.
1903 jan To England with sisters Vera and Chaddie to study at Queen’s College. Meets Ida Baker.
KM begins ‘Juliet’. Returns to New Zealand.
Dec. Death of Granny Dyer.
Harold becomes Chairman of the Bank of NZ . Buys 47 Fitzherbert Terrace in the centre of Wellington. KM’s relationships with Maata Mahupuku and Edith Bendall. Mr & Mrs Trowell move back to London to make a home for their sons who are studying music in Europe.
Oct First 3 stories published in The Native Companion. Writes Botanical Gardens and In a Cafe
Nov/Dec Urewera trip.
Jul Returns to London alone. Arrives Plymouth Aug.24th 1908. Stays at Beauchamp Lodge – a hostel for young professional women.
Sept. Begins love affair with Garnet Trowell.
Nov/Dec Moves in with Trowells at Carlton Hill
Dec/Nov. Begins to suspect that she may be pregnant. Meets George Bowden.
End Dec/Jan Thrown out by the Trowells – according to their daughter Dolly because they discovered that KM was pregnant.
Jan 25th Goes to Liverpool to see Garnet.
Mar 2nd Marries George Bowden and leaves him straight away without consummating the marriage.
8th March Goes to Glasgow to stay with Garnet.
17th March Marriage announced in the Times. Her relationship with Garnet is over.
Apr 8th Katherine visits Belgium.
May 27th Mrs Beauchamp arrives. Takes KM to Worishofen in Germany
June 10th Mrs Beauchamp goes back to NZ.
June/July KM loses the baby. Begins her German Pension stories.
Oct/Nov Meets Floryan Sobieniowski. They become lovers and plan to live together in Paris.
Dec/Jan KM returns to England suddenly and demands that George Bowden lives with her as husband and wife.
Feb 24th Introduction to A.R. Orage at the New Age. Publication of The Child who was Tired.
Mar Operation for peritonitis. Removal of fallopian tube. KM leaves Bowden and convalesces with Ida at Rottingdean.
May KM has ‘rheumatic fever’. Friendship with Beatrice Hastings and Orage.
Aug Return to London. Living at 131 Cheyne Walk. Affairs with William Orton and Francis Heinemann.
Jan KM living at 69 Clovelly Mansions, Greys Inn Rd. (now 19 Churston Mansions).
Apr Katherine suspects that she may be pregnant again. ?Abortion.
Post Impressionist Exhibition put on by Roger Fry.
May/Oct 6 ‘German Pension’ stories in New Age edited by Orage.
June Beauchamps visit England for the Coronation and stay until March 1912.
Autumn John Middleton Murry begins publication of Rhythm. Contracts gonorrhea.
Dec Publication of In A German Pension collection by Stephen Swift. KM meets JMM at one of the parties given to celebrate. JMM agrees to print The Woman at the Store, in Rhythm. pub Spring 1912 + 2 poems.
Feb JMM comes to KM’s flat for tea.
Apr JMM moves in as KM’s lodger. KM becomes assistant editor of Rhythm. Shortly afterwards they become lovers.
May KM and JMM go to Paris where she meets JD Fergusson, Anne Estelle Rice and Francis Carco. KM quarrels with the editors of the New Age, Beatrice Hastings and A.R. Orage.
June KM and JMM meet Henri Gaudier and his girlfriend Sophie Brzeska.
Aug/Sept Forced to leave Clovelly Mansions as landlord disapproves of unmarried couple. Move to cottage at Runcton, nr Chichester.
Sept/Oct Floryan arrives and moves in. Quarrel with Gaudier Brzeskas.
Oct Rhythm’s publisher disappears. Katherine pledges her allowance towards the debt.
Nov Living in a cheap room in Chancery Lane. Floryan finally persuaded to leave.
Jan KM rents the Mill House at Cholesbury, Bucks.
Meets DH Lawrence and Frieda Weekley.
May Rhythm becomes The Blue Review for only 3 issues.
Jul Living at 8 Chaucer Mansions, Barons Court. Unable to fund the debts left by Rhythm.
Dec KM & JMM go to Paris – 31 Rue de Tournon nr Luxembourg Gdns. Closer relationship with Carco. Murry declared bankrupt.
Feb Beaufort Mansions, Chelsea. Then 102 Edith Grove, (off Fulham Rd). Katherine finds the communal facilities sordid.
Mar Ida Baker goes to live with her father in Rhodesia.
Jul Arthur St. Chelsea (now Dove St.) Full of bugs.
Jul Lawrence’s marriage to Frieda.
Aug.4th Outbreak of World War I
Oct K & J stay with the Lawrences in Buckinghamshire then move to Rose Tree Cottage nr Gt. Missenden. KM meets Samuel Koteliansky (Kot).
Feb KM leaves JMM for Francis Carco, but returns.
Mar 18th KM goes back to stay in Carco’s empty flat at 13 Quai aux Fleurs nr Notre Dames, where she begins The Aloe.
Mar 31st Back to Murry at 95 Elgin Cres., Notting Hill. Then returns to Paris.
Jul 15th Takes the lease of 5 Acacia Rd., St John’s Wood.
Summer Leslie Beauchamp comes to England.
Sep Signature Magazine – a collaboration with D.H. Lawrence.
Oct Leslie Beauchamp is killed in France.
Nov KM’s first meeting with Dorothy Brett. Publishes ‘Stay-Laces’ in the New Age.
Nov/Dec KM and JMM move to Bandol in France near Marseille. Hotel Beau Rivage and then the Villa Pauline. KM continues to write ‘The Aloe’. Begins an intimate correspondence with Frederick Goodyear, who is in love with her.
Feb The Lawrences take a house in Cornwall at Zennor.
Apr KM & JMM return to England and move to Zennor, Cornwall to live with the Lawrences.
May KM & JMM leave and move to Mylor in Sth Cornwall. Goodyear visits.
Jul KM’s first weekend at Garsington, invited by Ottoline Morrell.
Aug JMM takes job at the War Office to avoid conscription.
Sep KM returns to London, to 3 Gower St owned by Maynard Keynes and shared by Dorothy Brett and Carrington. KM hates it.
Sep Ida returns from Rhodesia to take up war work.
Nov KM begins a friendship with Bertrand Russell.
Xmas KM and JMM at Garsington. Lytton Strachey and Bertrand Russell. Play ‘The Laurels’.
Feb KM moves into a studio at 141a Old Church St., Chelsea. JMM moves to 47 Redcliffe Rd. Begins a friendship with Virginia Woolf.
Apr Virginia Woolf asks Katherine for a story for the Hogarth Press. She is given The Aloe.
May Katherine returns to the New Age with ‘Two Tuppeny Ones Please’, ‘Late at Night’, ‘The Black Cap’, ‘In Confidence’, and ‘The Common Round’.
May Frederick Goodyear is killed in France.
Jun ‘A Picnic’ and ‘Mr Reginald Peacock’s Day’ published in the New Age.
Aug Katherine stays at Asheham with Virginia Woolf.
Aug/Sept JMM’s younger brother Richard Murry working on the farm at Garsington as pacifist. Katherine suspects JMM of conducting an affair with Ottoline Morrell. Her friendship with Ottoline breaks down.
Dec Katherine ill with congestion of the lung. Is advised that it may be tubercular. She consults several doctors.
1918 JMM becomes Chief Censor at the War Office. KM very ill.
Jan Diagnosis of TB. Advised not to spend the winter in England. KM sets out alone for Bandol.
Feb Ida arrives in Bandol to look after Katherine.
Feb 19th KM’s first haemorrhage.
Mar KM decides to return to London
Mar/Apr Stranded in Paris with LM.
Apr 29th Divorce from Bowden made absolute.
May 3rd KM’s marriage to JMM. Ferguson & Brett witnesses. Living at 47 Redcliffe Rd.
May 17th Anne Estelle Rice Drey arranges for KM to stay at the Headland Hotel at Looe in Cornwall to recuperate.
Jul Prelude published by Hogarth Press. Bliss published in English Review.
Aug 8th KM’s mother, Annie Burnell Beauchamp dies in New Zealand after an operation.
Aug 26th Move to ‘The Elephant’, 2 Portland villas, East Heath Rd., Hampstead.
Autumn KM sees DH Lawrence for the last time in London.
Oct Dr Sorapure tells her how serious her TB really is. He also suspects that she has had gonorrhea. She does not tell anyone about this, or seek a second opinion.
Dec The Heron Press (run by JMM and his brother Richard) publish ‘Je ne Parle pas Francais’, as well as poems by JMM.
Jan/Feb JMM becomes editor of the Athenaeum. OBE for war work.
KM and Koteliansky collaborate on translations of Chekhov’s letters and diaries as well as Gorky and Dostoevsky. KM becomes a reviewer for the Athenaeum.
Summer KM has an increasingly close friendship with Virginia Woolf. Harold Beauchamp visits London. It’s the first time Katherine has seen him since 1912. He and Murry do not get on.
Sept 14th KM leaves England for San Remo after making her will.
Oct 14th KM staying at 31 Casetta Deerholm, Ospedaletti with LM.
Nov Harold Beauchamp visits KM.
Dec Dr Foster tells KM the extent of her disease.
Dec 4th KM asks Murry to come out to her at Ospadelletti and he refuses. The New Husband poem. Turning point in their relationship.
Dec 16th Murry arrives in Ospedaletti and there is a reconciliation.
Jan 2nd JMM goes back to England.
Jan Connie Beauchamp and Jinnie Fullerton rescue KM and take her to Menton.
Feb KM receives a cruel letter from Lawrence.
Feb/Mar Harold Beauchamp marries Laura Kate Bright back in New Zealand.
Apr KM meets Sydney and Violet Schiff. Returns to Hampstead for 4 months. Renewal of her friendship with Virginia Woolf.
Jun KM publishes first stories in the Athenaeum.
Aug KM suspects JMM is having a love affair with Brett.
Sep 13th Return to Menton and Villa Isola Bella with Ida.
Sep Floryan’s blackmail attempt. Letters bought for £40 and burnt.
Dec Constable publish Bliss collection.
Nov/Dec JMM’s love affair with Princess Bibesco.
Dec JMM goes to Menton.
Winter KM gets JB Pinker as her agent.
Feb JMM resigns as editor of Athenaeum and goes back to Menton.
May 4th KM moves from Menton to Switzerland with Ida. Consults Henry Spahlinger, a Swiss bacteriologist who claims to have developed a serum that could cure TB.
Jul KM rents Chalet des Sapins near Sierre with Murry. Her cousin Elizabeth von Arnim lives nearby. Ida lodges in the village.
Jul/Dec Katherine writes many of her most important stories. Her health deteriorates.
Jan Orage sends JMM Cosmic Anatomy to review. KM reads it and begins to be interested in Ouspensky.
Jan 30th KM goes to Paris with Ida to see Dr Manoukhin about radiation treatment.
Feb 11th JMM joins her briefly before going back to Sierre.
Jun The treatment is not a success. KM returns to Sierre accompanied by JMM. They separate after a quarrel. Ida returns to look after Katherine.
Feb 23rd Publication of The Garden Party by Constable.
Aug 15th KM sets her affairs in order. Makes a will before returning to London with Ida and JMM. Stays at Brett’s house. JMM is staying elsewhere. Meets Ouspensky through Orage and discusses Gurdjieff.
Oct 2nd To Paris with Ida and then to the Gurdjieff Institute for the Harmonious Development of Man near Fontainbleau.
Oct 20th Ida leaves KM at the Institute and takes a job on a nearby farm.
Jan 9th KM invites Murry to the Institute because she feels that she would like to see him again. In the evening, Katherine dies.
Jan 12th Funeral at Avon, nr Fontainebleau.
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Mary Middleton Murry

In 1941 John Murry left Betty to live with the woman who would become his fourth wife – Mary Gamble. Many found their relationship incomprehensible, since Mary was approaching forty, extremely plain, and rather shy. But they defied convention to live together for fifteen years before they were legally able to marry.

Like Katherine, Mary was a strong, independent woman with her own income. Like Katherine she also had a female companion (‘Val’ Baker) whose presence Murry had to tolerate. As with Katherine and Ida, this friendship was also ambiguous, and Mary wrote of the ‘unkind and unimaginative remarks’ she had suffered when she and Val began to live together, from ‘the conventional, narrow minded folk, [who] could see little or no good in a real friendship based on love and trust.’ Her relationship with Val lasted the whole of her life and remained ambiguous.

Murry had met Mary as early as 1932 when she wrote to him, full of admiration after reading his books and listening to one of his lectures. In the years that followed there were several meetings – they were both involved with the Peace Pledge Union – and an intermittent correspondence until 1939 when the relationship suddenly deepened. The tragedy of Murry’s marriage to Betty and the fiasco of his relationship with Helen Young threw him into an emotional crisis. He wrote to Mary: ‘My hunger for a woman who will be gentle towards me grows month by month. And destiny has determined that the woman is you.’ The letter is full of Murry’s need. ‘Maybe it is only that I am tired, tired, tired. But that is what I want from you – rest from my weariness; the beating of my heart tells me that you are capable of the tenderness of love, and you have this wonderful and precious thing to give me . . . I want, I need terribly, to believe in love between a man and woman again.’ Not a single line offers Mary anything, but like all the other intelligent, independent women before her, Mary thought John Murry worth the sacrifice – ‘I wanted to take care of him forever; I felt that in my arms he was safe.’ She became his lover and they took a room together in London, although it took another two years before Murry was able to disengage himself from Betty and officially live with her. Mary’s one condition was that her friend Val, who had lived with her for more than ten years, should be part of the package. Murry is reported to have groaned ‘Oh god, not another Baker!’

A year after Murry abandoned Betty, his eldest daughter ran away from her step mother and came to live with Murry and Mary. A couple of years later his son Colin came too and Murry was in a position to try to make amends for his earlier behaviour towards his older children. His youngest son and daughter – Betty’s children – were not so fortunate.Far from being jealous of Katherine Mansfield and Murry’s devotion to her, Mary was actually grateful for Katherine’s influence on him. ‘Last night I came across these words of K.M. “At the end Truth is the only thing worth having; it is more thrilling than love, more joyful, and more passionate.” And as I read them I remembered how much John and I owed to Katherine. . . Oh Katherine, I never knew you, but so often I feel eternal gratitude for what you were.’ Katherine’s writings, and Murry’s about her, became Mary’s bible in her struggle to understand her husband. There were many other links to the past in their relationship. Katherine’s doctor, who had also attended Violet, was Mary’s doctor. The friend who had taken Violet in just before her death, was also one of Mary’s best friends.

Murry claimed to have finally achieved domestic happiness with Mary. He wrote in a letter that ‘Never . . has any woman given me such total and entire happiness as you have done.’ He credited this – not to his fourth wife’s absolute devotion to his needs – but to the influence of his first wives. ‘I can see Katherine and Violet lifting their eyebrows at one another when I write this: but they do it in a laughing, gay kind of way; and they quite agree. They say to one another: “But we taught him how to love.” And that’s true.’

Murry repeatedly compared his marriage to Mary with his relationship with Katherine. On their wedding day in 1954 he made a long entry in his diary comparing the two, very different, events. ‘The memory of my wedding to Katherine is a memory of the anguish, not the happiness of love. Yet today it seems that my wedding day is overflowing with happiness . . . it is extraordinary. Yet I firmly believe this happiness has grown out of that anguish.’

It was to Mary that he handed down the task of keeping the Mansfield torch alight when he died in 1957. By then his former life with Katherine Mansfield had begun to seem more and more like an idyll. He had even re-visited the villa they had occupied in Bandol, accompanied by Mary, a few months before his final heart attack. Shortly before he died he wrote; ‘I ask myself: “have I kept faith with my darling?” And I feel deep in my soul a great joy, because I know that I have. And then I feel strangely that I am in touch with her . . . it is as though she gazed into my soul . .’

He had also begun to look back on what he himself had achieved. ‘I do have moments of resentment and a sense of injustice . . . [although] I do not feel any overwhelming conviction of my significance as a writer. It’s possible . . . That I have simply dropped out of the picture, because I have not enough interestingness to be kept in it. Nevertheless, I do feel twinges of resentment, and a rather stubborn feeling that I am not quite so negligible as all that.’ Just before he died he acknowledged that ‘I have made of Love all of my religion. . . To search for . . the reconciliation of Heart, Mind, Emotion and Intellect – I have sacrificed whatever talent for art I possessed.’ It was an answer to those who questioned whether he should have spent so much time promoting Katherine’s reputation at the expense of his own writing.

Murry was still talking about Katherine as he lay in his hospital bed. Katherine, he said, would understand that he was ready for death. She would have given him permission to go when others – particularly Mary – were begging him not to leave. That Katherine’s presence should have been so strongly felt at his bedside is not surprising in view of the fact that he had spent thirteen turbulent years with the living Katherine Mansfield and thirty four with the legend he’d created. It was his most enduring personal relationship.

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D.H. Lawrence

David Herbert Lawrence was born on the 11th September 1885, in a small terraced house in Nottinghamshire, the son of a coal miner. Lawrence’s father was well-liked but had a tendency to drown his depression in drink. His mother was religious, highly articulate and literate (she read widely and wrote poetry) and is generally regarded as the major influence in his life. She ran what used to be called a ‘parlour shop’ selling haberdashery from the front room of the cottage. There were four other siblings and a lot of family conflict. Lawrence once wrote ‘I was born hating my father’. He won a scholarship to Nottingham High School and became interested in literature, reading all twenty volumes of ‘The International Library of Famous Literature’, which his mother had bought by subscription. After he left school Lawrence became a pupil teacher before winning another scholarship to University College Nottingham in order to become certificated. His first post was in Croydon, with easy access to London, where Lawrence bought the English Review which published his first poetry. The editor, Edward Garnett, introduced him to the publisher Gerald Duckworth and gave him a great deal of encouragement. So did the society hostess Ottoline Morrell, who invited him to attend her ‘salons’ in London and then to one of her weekends at Garsington Manor, where he met some of the major literary figures of the day.

Lawrence suffered his first bouts of pneumonia as an adolescent and from then on had what was known as a ‘weak chest’. It rapidly became tubercular, but Lawrence ignored his symptoms until the disease was quite advanced.

Although physically attracted to men, Lawrence always had close female relationships. A six year engagement to Jessie Chambers, whom he credited with helping him to launch his literary career, was broken off in 1910, the year his mother died from cancer. It was a year of considerable emotional upheaval. Lawrence then became engaged to another intelligent, literary woman, Louie Burrows. This too was broken off a month before he met Frieda Weekley – the aristocratic, German wife of a Professor at Nottingham University – in 1912. Two months later they ran away together, travelling through Germany, Switzerland, and France, finally settling in Italy at a little coastal village called Fiascherino near La Spezia. After a protracted and bitter divorce, Frieda and Lawrence were able to marry in 1914. Frieda grieved for the three children she wasn’t allowed to see and it was a stormy and sometimes violent marriage.

After publishing poetry and short stories, Lawrence’s first novel The White Peacock, was published in January 1911 and his second – The Trespasser – in 1912. Sons and Lovers followed in 1913 and established Lawrence’s reputation, though initial drafts (under the title Paul Morel) were turned down because of the explicit content. His fourth novel, The Rainbow, was banned for indecency shortly after publication in 1915 and all remaining copies were ordered to be burnt. Lawrence’s agent was unable to find a publisher for Women in Love, which continued the story of the Brangwen family. It is clear from Lawrence’s letters and discussions with friends, that the character of Hermione Roddice was based on Ottoline Morrell. Her husband threatened to sue if the book appeared. Gerald Crich and Gudrun Brangwen were based on John Middleton Murry and Katherine Mansfield. Rupert Birkin incorporated aspects of Lawrence himself and Ursula Brangwen drew on Frieda’s character.

Lawrence met Katherine Mansfield and John Middleton Murry when they wrote to him in 1913 to ask for a story to publish in Rhythm – the magazine they edited together in London. When the Lawrences came to England the two couples met and established an immediate rapport. Katherine and John were witnesses at their marriage and Frieda gave Katherine her old wedding ring, which Katherine wore for the rest of her life. Katherine and Frieda never became real friends – Katherine’s affinity was always with Lawrence. There was tension in the relationship because Lawrence was deeply attracted to John, wanting to establish a ‘blood brother bond’ with him. John was also attracted to Frieda, with whom he had an affair after Katherine died. The two couples lived close to each other, first in Berkshire in 1914 and then in Zennor Cornwall in 1915. There were innumerable quarrels and the friendship was broken off several times. Lawrence once wrote to Katherine – a fellow consumptive; ‘You are a loathsome reptile stewing in your consumption. I hope you will die.’ Katherine understood Lawrence and even forgave him, writing in her Journal that ‘Lawrence and I are unthinkably alike’

During the first world war Lawrence was classified as unfit for service. He and Frieda were persecuted in Cornwall because of Frieda’s German nationality (her cousin was the German ace pilot Baron Manfred von Richthofen). They tried several times to emigrate to America (where Lawrence’s work was being well received) but couldn’t get the necessary visas. The Lawrences left England in 1922, visiting New Zealand and Australia before arriving in America. Lawrence decided to move permanently to New Mexico and tried to persuade others to join him in a community of like-minded people – the Rananim that he had discussed with Katherine and John. Only one of his English friends – the painter Dorothy Brett – agreed to go with him. They lived at Taos in New Mexico, but Lawrence travelled relentlessly in search of health, coming back to Europe in 1926, where he died four years later at Vence on the border between France and Italy. He was only 44.

copyright: Kathleen Jones

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John Middleton Murry’s Third Marriage

Within three weeks of Violet’s death Murry had agreed to marry the aptly named Betty Cockbayne – an uneducated farmer’s daughter who had a reputation for ungovernable rages. Her father warned Murry what to expect, but he went ahead with the wedding. His third marriage was as violent, destructive and punishing as his critics could have wished. Violet was erased from his life and Murry made no attempt to keep her memory alive for their children. They later recalled that Katherine Mansfield was infinitely more real for them than their own mother. John Murry was already writing in his journal of his disappointment in them. ‘The difference between the life with my children that I dreamed of before they were born and the reality, is a masterpiece of irony. To think of the little pictures Katherine drew in the margin of one of her letters of ‘our children’, and then to think of the last ten years! And yet, in spite of all, my children are ‘our children’.

By the time he wrote this, Violet was no longer there to protest at his misappropriation of her offspring. But her successor Betty not only protested but subjected ‘Katherine’s’ children and their father to a barrage of abuse. Her own two children, she insisted, were her own – born from her own body – and she refused to let Murry have any hand in their upbringing. Unlike Violet, Betty was not afraid of the ghost of Mansfield, but Murry’s retreat into his study to ‘commune with the dead’ drove her to create scenes that left witnesses shaken and appalled.

The young Katherine and John were physically and emotionally abused by a stepmother who seemed to hate them. They also had to stand by and watch her battering the father they adored, who was powerless to stop her or to protect his children. It was a repeat of Murry’s childhood experiences and in the dark recesses of his psyche it was also a punishment he felt he deserved. Murry hid in his study writing. He was working on an account of his childhood and his relationship with Katherine which he published in 1936 and dedicated to Betty. He called it ‘Between Two Worlds’ taking its apt title from Matthew Arnold’s lines ‘Wandering between two worlds, one dead, the other powerless to be born’. He also continued with the transcription of Katherine’s journals and letters and his decision to publish many of the latter was regarded either as an act of great courage or an exercise in masochism. His friends and family decided that he was scourging himself for his behaviour towards Katherine when she was alive. At the time he wrote: ‘I still shrink from any in which she is disillusioned in me – no matter how familiar they are. I still go sick in the belly with apprehension of them . . even though I know that in a day or two it will all be over, as though it had not been. God! How terrible are one’s failures in love. They haunt the secretest places of one’s soul for years and years – for ever.’

Katherine Mansfield was now his means of escape from an intolerable situation. He threw his energies into the creation of a co-operative farm which seems to have been an extension of his and Katherine’s dreams of owning a farm they called ‘the Heron’, still under the influence of D.H. Lawrence, in the days when he and Katherine discussed a community of like minds – ‘Rananim’ – where they would live and work together in complete harmony.
Eventually, after six years of violent marriage, Murry left Betty for Helen Young, wife of the doctor who had attended both Katherine and Violet. It was as though he was still trying to reach Katherine by proxy. Not surprisingly this relationship also failed to live up to his expectations. There was a brief (and scarcely credible) reunion with Betty which produced another child, before Murry was forced to accept that his marriage was unworkable. When he did, finally, find the courage to leave Betty, the children were left behind to endure further cruelty. The paragraphs of self-justification in his diaries are difficult to understand. It was a tragic situation. Murry, battered and bewildered by the failure of his personal life, unable to relate to his own children, or even perceive their suffering, was utterly desperate.

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Murry’s relationship with Violet le Maistre

Shortly after Katherine’s death Murry married Violet le Maistre, a girl who was Katherine’s physical double and who also had ambitions as a writer. Violet was very young for her age – the product of a sheltered childhood. In an uncanny echo of his meeting with Katherine, Murry met Violet when she submitted some stories for the literary magazine he was then editing. He liked them and lent her a collection of Chekhov’s stories to read. A few days later he invited her to dinner, ostensibly to meet his younger brother Richard and it was then that she confessed to Murry that she had already fallen in love with him. Always susceptible, Murry succumbed to her adoration and gave her Katherine’s pearl ring to symbolise their engagement. Their first home, the Old Coastguard Station at Abbotsbury in Dorset, was bought with royalties from Katherine’s books. The furniture too was Katherine’s. Not surprisingly Violet was unhappy. The idyllic marriage she had imagined became something else. Her daughter wrote later that ‘My mother felt lost. Deeply in love with my father, she . . . found in this kind and loving man . . . a preoccupation with worlds she could not enter, that no living soul could penetrate.’

Murry’s brother Richard firmly believed that Violet had been ‘possessed’ by Katherine Mansfield. Violet’s son wrote afterwards, more perceptively, that Murry ‘unwittingly chose to see in Violet the heaven-sent reincarnation of his first wife’ and this delusion was to have tragic repercussions for the family. Still obsessed with Katherine and making a career out of her literary remains, Murry held himself emotionally detached from Violet. Her first response was to participate in Murry’s fantasy, subdue her own personality and make herself as much like her dead rival as possible. Violet cut her hair, wrote short stories in the Chekhov style and modelled herself on Katherine Mansfield so completely that even her handwriting became identical. When a baby daughter was born this blurring of identities was so complete that Murry wrote ‘I . . felt, quite simply, that Violet’s daughter was Katherine’s daughter, and I named her accordingly.’ The young Katherine Middleton Murry was believed by both parents to be a kind of spiritual re-incarnation of her namesake. She herself wrote later, with some anger, that ‘the myth and the mysterious presence of Katherine Mansfield, determined the very landscape of the soul with which I was born’. The immediate result of this identification was that Violet rejected her daughter. She was by now desperate for Murry’s love and attention in her own right.

Shortly after the birth of her second child a year later Violet was diagnosed with tuberculosis by the same doctor who had attended the dying Mansfield. Violet, on being informed she had advanced tuberculosis, told Murry in a hysterical outburst; ‘I’m so glad! I wanted you to love me as much as you loved Katherine – and how could you, without this?’ At Dr Young’s insistence Violet spent months in sanatoriums, without any visible effect. Friends thought it possible that she was so unhappy with Murry she walked willingly towards extinction. Doctors told Murry that Violet’s mental state certainly contributed to her demise. Her children were kept away from her in order not to contract the infection, though she seems already to have turned her back on them.

Murry’s diary entries concentrate mainly on his own sufferings. ‘How tired I am of listening to that cough of Violet’s. . . It seems to vibrate upon my spine,’ is the constantly recurring refrain. From the first diagnosis he refused to believe that Violet would recover, fearing that he could not cope with the pain he knew he would have to endure, having already been through it with Katherine. It was a very cruel fate, to lose two wives within such a short time from the same cause. Ted Hughes also had to endure this and even though he was a much stronger character than Murry, found it almost unbearable. Murry simply didn’t have the emotional resources to deal with it. Friends, observing the negative effect that he had on Violet’s spirits, took her to live with them in London for the last, painful weeks. Murry (who had had an affair with Dorothy Brett while Katherine was dying at Fontainebleau) almost immediately sought physical comfort with his house-keeper, Betty, who believed herself to be pregnant in the same month that Violet died.

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Katherine’s Illness and Death

In January 1923, Katherine was living at the Gurdjieff Institute at Fontainebleau, trying to achieve spiritual peace in the hope that by healing the mind she could also heal the body. Aware that she was in the final stages of tuberculosis, she still hoped that she could be cured. Although she had already said a final goodbye to John Murry when she left England in the previous September, she invited him to visit her at the Institute – perhaps aware that she had very little time left. Ida Baker was working on a farm nearby so that she could be close to Katherine and her diary entries record her emotional confusion. Having devoted her whole life to loving Katherine, she couldn’t understand why her affection was not reciprocated at the same level and why Katherine always preferred the inadequate Murry to herself. On the evening of Murry’s arrival, Katherine tried to run up the stairs to go to bed, began to haemorrhage and died in the arms of the family doctor – James Young. Murry was stunned, and the burden of organising the funeral and dealing with Katherine’s belongings fell to Ida who tried diligently to carry out Katherine’s instructions.

After her death Murry had what he described as a mystical experience, believing that ‘Katherine’s love survived her own physical death’ and that her presence would accompany him always. He vowed that he ‘would not let her die’ and proceeded to idealise their relationship, while having an affair with her friend Dorothy Brett – begun while Katherine was still alive – and another with Frieda Lawrence. But in the emotional chaos of bereavement he forgot to pay for Katherine’s funeral so that her body had to be moved into a pauper’s grave.

Dorothy Brett believed he was going to marry her and Frieda Lawrence also had hopes of a lasting relationship with him. They were very bitter when he became abruptly engaged to Violet le Maistre within a few months of Katherine’s death. His second marriage was a strange repeat of the first. Murry could have collected an Oscar for emotional inadequacy. ‘I couldn’t love anyone but a girl,’ he wrote in his journal. ‘I don’t know what Woman is: and never shall. Not that I have avoided Woman. It is simply that I can’t see, can’t make contact with Woman. She doesn’t exist for me.’

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Katherine’s Relationship with John Middleton Murry

John Middleton Murry and Katherine Mansfield were only 22 and 23 respectively when they met in London, after she had submitted some stories to Rhythm – a review he was editing while studying at Oxford. She floats across the pages of his heavy-footed autobiographical novels, ‘superior, condescending, lovely, untouchable, tired of asking first-rate questions from second-rate people’. Within a few weeks he had moved into her flat as a lodger and shortly afterwards they became lovers at Katherine’s instigation. A few months later she had pledged the allowance she received from her father to pay the debts left by the failure of Rhythm. At the time Katherine thought her relationship with Murry would be ideal. She believed she had found someone she could share her mind with – a soul mate. Murry also wanted to be a writer. Similarly unconventional, he didn’t mind the fact that Katherine was already married. Perhaps remembering the baby she had lost and two further possible miscarriages or abortions, she desperately wanted to have Murry’s child, but her gynaecological history prevented this and Katherine continually grieved over it. She and Murry consoled themselves with fantasy children – a little Katherine and a little John – children John Murry would later father on his second wife Violet le Maistre.

Not surprisingly, since their circumstances and temperaments were so very different, the Murrys’ relationship quickly became turbulent. Whereas Katherine had had a relatively happy, financially secure upbringing in New Zealand, Murry’s childhood had been unbelievably bleak. A child prodigy who could read the Times when he was three, he was beaten and abused by his father, who nevertheless worked overtime every evening at the Penny Bank to pay for his son’s education. When Murry wrote about his childhood later – in the third person – he could recall nothing but misery. ‘There was no sunlight in his memory at all. There was only gloom and grit and sordidness, amid which he had run like a drop of water in grey dust, complete and separate and hidden. . . Why had there been no relief from it all, not one lovely, calm, sunlit thing to look back upon? Why had he worked with terror in his soul at his grammar school when he had taken his scholarship? Why had he never a moment’s enjoyment of his own cleverness, even? Terror and darkness, terror and darkness . . .’ John Murry saw gaining a scholarship to Christ’s Hospital and then to Oxford as his only way out, though the slog of study involved ‘the complete obliteration of [my] childhood’. He emerged a nervous, insecure, guilt-ridden young man with ‘a devouring desire to love and be loved’. Unfortunately the spirit of his father – the penny pinching, joyless bank-clerk was firmly lodged in Murry’s soul.

Throughout his life, women were attracted to Murry’s vulnerability and the sadness they could perceive at the core of his personality. Katherine was no exception. She was drawn to him by the secret tragedies in her own life – some of which (like the story of her baby) were never told to him. But within two years of their first meeting, an utterly disillusioned Katherine had left Murry twice, though she always went back. He appears in her stories again and again, weak, ineffectual but well meaning – the ‘Man without a Temperament’ and ‘Je ne Parle pas Francais’.

Part of the problem was that, while she lived with Murry, Katherine found writing extremely difficult. After the early success with In a German Pension, ill-health and personal troubles as well as her unsatisfactory relationship and the need to earn her own living, restricted her ability to write anything but a few short sketches, reviews and literary journalism. She was relatively unknown outside a small circle where she was regarded as promising, but her potential as yet unrealised. This aggravated Katherine. After one dinner party with Virginia Woolf and her literary friends Katherine said she had felt all evening as if she wanted to jump up and shout ‘I, too, write a little!’ It was John Murry who was seen as the important ‘man of letters’; a career writer, editing weighty periodicals, churning out critical essays and biographies as well as a series of turgid novels, and expecting Katherine to support him – emotionally and sometimes financially. ‘Art is absolutely self-development’ Katherine observed, but for women it was ‘the hopelessly insipid doctrine that love is the only thing in the world, taught, hammered into women, from generation to generation, which hampers us so cruelly.’ Yet she was unable to prevent herself from falling into the trap, walking about ‘with a mind full of ghosts and saucepans and primus stoves’ and Middleton Murry calling from the back room ‘Tig, isn’t there going to be tea?’ Katherine coped with the help of a devoted female friend, Ida Baker, the woman Katherine referred to as her ‘wife’ and nicknamed L.M. It was Ida who cared for Katherine after she was diagnosed with TB shortly before her marriage in 1918. Ida accompanied her to France and Switzerland where Katherine spent long periods as her health deteriorated.

For the last five years of Katherine’s life – even after their marriage – the Murrys often lived apart and communicated by letter. They got on better that way. Theirs was a relationship constructed from words on paper across vast absences necessitated by Katherine’s ill-health and their mutually incompatible temperaments. When they lived together, their attempts at intimacy always foundered because the reality of their relationship could never bear comparison with the fictional entity they had created in their letters. There was also the invidious presence of the essential Ida. They were both unfaithful, but clung together like survivors of a shipwreck. For ten years, until Katherine’s death, they wrote to each other almost every day and both kept detailed journals.

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